There’s something that happens when you start moving?in the direction of your dreams. You will experience resistance. It’s not one specific thing you can see or name, it’s mostly a feeling. In The War of Art by Steven Pressfield, resistance is:
an energy field radiating from a work-in-potential. It’s a repelling force. It’s negative. Its aim is to shove us away, distract us, prevent us from doing our work.
In this post, I’ll talk about what triggers resistance and how I’ve experienced it in my own life. My hope is that you’ll start to see it in yours too.
I felt resistance a lot more than usual this past week. With every yoga class I teach, each Instagram post I share, and each project I work on, there’s a little voice in me that wants to shrink back, not share, not open up, not be vulnerable, and not put myself out there. It wants me to stay safe and not create.
Have you felt this too?
What triggers these thoughts and feelings?
The War of Art?outlines 11 activities that trigger resistance (in no specific order):
- -The pursuit of any calling in writing, painting, music, film, dance, or any creative art, however marginal or unconventional.
- -The launching of any entrepreneurial venture or enterprise, for profit or otherwise.
- -Any diet or health regimen.
- -Any program of spiritual advancement.
- -Any activity whose aim is tighter abdominals.
- -Any course or program designed to overcome an unwholesome habit or addiction.
- -Education of every kind.
- -Any act of political, moral, or ethical courage, including the decision to change for the better some unworthy pattern of thought or conduct in ourselves.
- -The undertaking of any enterprise or endeavor whose aim is to help others.
- -Any act that entails commitment of the heart. The decision to get married, to have a child, to weather a rocky patch in a relationship.
- -The taking of any principled stand in the face of adversity.
In other words, any act that rejects immediate gratification in favor of long-term growth, health, or integrity.
When I first read this list six months ago, I was floored. It became so clear to me why some days felt like I was pushing a boulder up a hill or swimming upstream in a river. If you’re reading this, I know for sure you are engaging in three, four, or even five of these activities on a daily basis.
Once we are aware of the negative forcefield that prevents us from creating, we can look it in the eye and push through.
What ways do you experience resistance?
Resistance can be overcome. Stay tuned for a future blog post?on ways we can break through. Thank you for reading!
We live in a results-driven society. We are busier than ever these days. The world we live in places a high value on achievement.?At first it seems like the formula is to work harder towards building the life and future we truly want. In this post, I want to share some things I am learning. I want to share how taking it slow and cultivating an inner stillness can open the door to our best life yet.?
It’s interesting to think about our perspective?on time. Have you considered it? Whether it’s realizing how old we are going to turn when our next birthday comes around, to wondering where 2016 went (the first week of November has come upon us), sometimes it’s easy to feel like time is on fast-forward. Because of this, I think setting an intention of slowing down is so important.
The thing is (and those of you who are more type A will probably resonate with this), when we slow down, sometimes we think, well if I don’t work at this right now, it won’t get done. It won’t happen.
I’m starting to see that this isn’t exactly the case.?
Here’s what I’m learning-
Slow down to go fast…?I’m starting to see that time is on my side. Time is on your side too. I think this applies to pretty much everything! Maybe you are looking for a new job. Or maybe you just started dating someone. Perhaps you are working towards certain fitness goals. Wherever you are right now,?I think taking your time is the best thing you can do for you.
But it’s not just taking it slow. It’s realizing that the things at work in your life are happening for you even while you rest. While you sleep. While you aren’t putting in the hard work at the gym, work, school, etc.
Why is that?
Live Life with an Open Hand
I think the reason why taking your time and getting “rest” are worth it because if it’s for you, it will happen. This is something I have observed to be true time and time again. You will never have to force anything that is meant for you.?This is true in all areas of life- career opportunities, relationships, friendships, basically everything.
When you live life knowing your intrinsic worth and how loved you are, the game changes. You stop operating from a place of lack and move into a place of provision.
For me,?I am able to know my worth and understand my value through my relationship with Jesus. It’s a sweet journey to be on just knowing that it’s all a gift. It’s that ultimate rest from striving, proving myself, and being on the proverbial hamster wheel.?This is what helps me live life with an open hand.?
This leads me to the next thing-
Be Thankful for What you Have While Working for What you Want
We have a natural?desire to be fruitful and progress in life. I think it is so important to have goals and pursue them with our best abilities. Lately, I’ve been reflecting on what it means to be thankful for what I have now, while working for what I want. It is really easy to get so focused on the destination.?I’m learning that it’s about the moments in between.
It’s easy to spot this in our own lives. Have you ever found yourself thinking, “when ? ? ? ? ? ? ?? ?happens, then I’ll finally be happy.” I do sometimes. I counter these thoughts by?remembering the days that I prayed for what I have now. ?
When I was a sophomore in college, my friend’s biology class had a field trip at Little Corona?Beach?in Corona del Mar, California. The field trip was centered around observing all the living things in the tide pools during low tide. Once we got to Little Corona, I fell in love. I thought to myself, “wow, I’d love to live here.” That day, I saw my very first sea star and tons of purple sea urchins and teal sea anemones.
I always had CDM in the back of my mind since then. I finished college and started my career. After three years of working, an opportunity opened up to move to CDM.?My dream of living in CDM came true. It wasn’t a linear path and I didn’t know it would happen. I say prayer of gratitude every time I come home.
I look back to that memory because it’s a reminder of how life can surprise you. Sometimes you’ll get exactly what you wished for, or sometimes life gives you something better.?
What are some blessings you are standing in today? Does slowing down to go fast resonate with you?
Thank you for reading!